View Full Version : Dating Passengers- OK or Crossing a Line?
23rd Feb 2012, 18:59
Curious what the views are out there regarding cabin crew dating passengers. I know it's done in some places, and in others frowned upon. I know some companies have rules and some don't- just curious what you all think. Is it unprofessional to date a passenger if they were the one who did the 'asking', as it were?
I know crew date each other all the time, it's just how it is. Some people say dating colleagues is unprofessional , so I wondered if the view is the same on crew going out with a passenger. I've had a few offers in my time but never really been inclined to accept, however there's been a couple of tempting ones lately and I wondered what the general CC community think on this subject.
My company leaves it to us if we want to knock them back or not, but tell us that we should be considerate not to hurt their feelings and try to keep their business... that is, if they are just asking us out or for our number, not if they do anything inappropriate! In this case, the passenger slipped me his email address as he was leaving & said he'd love to meet up for a meal/drink next time I'm in that place... not sure if he was just fishing for a good time but we did have a conversation or two during the course of the flight (slow day in the cabin, lol)
23rd Feb 2012, 20:34
I am "just a PAX" and generally to shy to make the first move. That said, I felt the inclination to ask a flight attendant out once. The cabin where I was seated was fairly empty, she was clearly enjoying her job, we had the opportunity to talk... but alas I was too shy. :*
My plans were to spend the evening in pleasant company and then retire each to our own hotel room. It is just pleasant to speak your native tongue with pretty company when you have to travel for work to a foreign country.
My advice to FAs: Don't overdo dating with passengers, but once in a while there might be one around that's worth a date. Hint hint: the good ones don't mind to wait getting into bed with you until a later date.
23rd Feb 2012, 22:05
I fly with many crew who not only dated them but went on to marry their passengers. Can't see why it would be a problem for anyone else, or their business for that matter although most crew prefer not to take passengers out with them collectively downroute. There are often phone numbers, business cards, etc slipped in to pockets during the disembarking phase as no-one has to stick around for rejection. They either call or they don't! So don't be shy 'Mathfox', give it a go as you have nothing to lose. And 'givemewings', try saying 'yes' or Mr/Ms Right could slip through your fingers!
24th Feb 2012, 00:13
My plans were to spend the evening in pleasant company and then retire each to our own hotel room
foxi foxi... i am not sure if this were your real plans for the evening :O
sorry ladies and gents to sneak in the cabin forum, but this theme woke up my interest ! i must say i never saw such things at my airliner time, and currently in ambulance and cargo missions we have no flight attendants anymore- but the general rule- why not if both feel its worth !
i had one time a blind date with an girl from ATC. we departed on a summer afternoon from heringsdorf at the baltic sea and were just beind handled over to berlin radar. a nice and sexy female voice gave the clearance and then she asked how the weather in heringsdorf is.
i answered that its best summer and a shame to work at such weather. she replied that she would also prefer to be at the beach and not behind the radar screen.
my reply was that lieing at the beach would be a great idea- especially with such a nice voice on my side... really- there was silence for a minute, i thought she is pi..d off. after a time she told me that she has unfortunetly handle over to munich radar without formally doing it.
i told her that i may try to squak her my telephone number when she can follow the 4 digits steps i can type in...
she laughed and said " better not, maybe your telephone number starts with 7700 " , but said immediately "but after landing sms me how your flight was at xxxxx number" which she gave me via radio. then she handled me over to another frequency .
i must say it was the best radio conversation i ever had. i noticed the number, contacted her and few days later we went for a beer in berlin. she was older than she sounded , but nevertheless we had a very very nice date with much laughing.
the best dates are the unusual !
24th Feb 2012, 05:15
Is this wishful thinking or has someone been watching too much Pan Am of late?
24th Feb 2012, 08:15
Once I was saying goodbye to the passengers when a guy came up to me and said something like 'Is the lovely German cabin crew member single?' I said 'No idea, let me find out.'
A few minutes later I returned to this passenger with her phone number (she could see who it was). There you go.. pilot assisted dating :)
If your company has no rule against it I canīt see how it would be unprofessional.
Itīs not as if dating a passenger would put us in an ethically unsound position is it?
Know a few colleagues who have dated and married pax. Know a few who have been stalked by pax too; reason why we donīt have name badges any longer.
Have gone out on a date with 2 pax ever. One was boring as hell, the other was the most spectacularly fun 3 days I have ever had on a tropical island.
Lifeīs too short to worry about non-issues; if you feel like it, go for it. :ok:
If itīs during a stop over, make sure you inform a fellow crew member of where you are planning to go, with whom, and when you intend to report back in.
Just in case your pax turns out to be a scumbag and you need rescuing.
24th Feb 2012, 09:54
I don't think there is anything wrong with it - but I would be very careful doing it! Especially if it was down route!
I suppose a benefit to finding someone attractive in the air is there waist may have shrank by the time you 'get down' so to speak!
The Nr Fairy
24th Feb 2012, 20:10
Reminds me - I should have given my card to xxx, the purser on my BA flight to Budapest in January !!
24th Feb 2012, 20:21
I can't see anything wrong with dating a passenger or why it should be a problem. I know of several crew who have and even married passengers. I have been on a couple of dates with some passengers and one of them was my boyfriend for two years. You really have nothing to lose.
But, as others have said, just be careful whether it's downroute or not.
24th Feb 2012, 22:06
Lifeīs too short to worry about non-issues; if you feel like it, go for it.
Probably the best advice on this thread :ok:
26th Feb 2012, 18:18
Perhas an enlightening story for this thread:
Full aircraft, and standby pax keen to get on, so the captain - my chum, single, early 30s and more handsome than he knew - was asked whether he would take a passenger on the jump seat (this was before filthy terrorists had done so much damage to the industry).
'Yes', he said, 'someone in business attire who hasn't been drinking, please...'.
The despatcher duly delivered a passenger for the jump seat...
Mid 20s, French, in a silk blouse and business suit as stunning as she was.
She was briefed on the safety equipment and settled in, apparently much enjoying the flight to Nice, behaving perfectly with interesting questions at appropriate times. My chum, a French-speaker, chatted away with her and the two were getting on like a house on fire (according to his FO, also a friend).
Fast forward to the landing: after a smooth raw data execution of the Riviera approach, my chum (uncharacteristically) puts it down as though full of eggs, and the lady leaves the flight deck with the last of the passengers, flashing a huge smile to le commandant de bord.
My chum ruefully comments to his FO that the lady was gorgeous and just his type. The FO suggests that if they hurry through baggage reclaim, he might catch her up. Emboldened, he signs off the tech log and leads the crew into the terminal.
Gosh, says the number 2, the purser doesn't muck about, does he?
'How so?' asks my chum.
'Well, it only took him twenty seconds to get your jump-seaters number; they're having dinner later!'.
Flight home next day: Purser called to flight deck for re-briefing on command structure and its priviledges.
Happy ending: Purser's date amounted to nothing. My chum saw the lady again a few weeks later boarding another flight. The wedding was lovely, as are their children, and they live between an apartment in the Loire and a house in the Cotswolds.
Let this be a lesson to us all!
27th Feb 2012, 07:00
Happy ending: Purser's date amounted to nothing.
That, of course, is what you were told... Us Pursers aren't always as dumb as we are handsome.