Can Crew Have a Normal Relationship

[straightin36]

Are cabin crew (females) capable of having a normal loving relationship? What are ur experiences whit being on the road and having a man at home or far away in another city. Especially one in the business

[Airbourne-Adamski]

From a Males Cabin Crew Point,
I am married and have a perfect relationship with the wife. Yes there is flirty fun onboard, but i think thats any where you work. We may have a flirty laugh and fun but no actual 'you know what' :oh: Well not now I am married.
Before I was married and not with my wife things were different. Alot went on.................. At the end of the day what those adults want to get up to as at there own risk if they are already attached.
Not saying that all crew are like that.

But yes I do belive crew can have a perfectly normal relationship and alot do.

[London legend]

I'm not crew, but my husband is a pilot - and I have a job which involves shifts, so we both juggle our lives in interesting ways!

You'll be glad to hear that we're very happily married. It certainly is a very different type of life to married couples who both do a 9-5 - but in my opinion it has a lot of benefits, too. I truly believe that spending some time apart, although it's nasty at times, can be of benefit - you really learn to appreciate each other properly and use what time you have to the full. And life if never too predictable, which I have grown to really like. Plus, we both do jobs that we love (most of the time!) and are therefore happier as a result. We've also been able to enjoy some amazing holidays in exotic parts of the world at dirt cheap rates - which we'd never have managed otherwise!

Of course a lot of flirting etc does go on (not really surprising, given the large numbers of young single crew about!) but if you're a solid couple, you'll be absolutely fine. You just need to keep in contact regularly (we speak every day without fail) and trust each other.

Hope that helps!

Lx

[ShesGreatintheGalley]

i have a normal relationship with my bed, my vibrator and my vodka.. thats all you need isnt it? hehe

seriously though.. its possible, but i think if you are with a person who works 9-5 mon-fri and dosnet understand your flying, then you prob wont have it as easy.
thats not saying that you cant have arelationship with someone who is not a shiftworker, you can! its just more challenging.

[straightin36]

haha thanks...

Im a pilot and she is an FA both for different companies in different countries... it is trying. I have a lot of friends in similar situations

[Airbourne-Adamski]

have a normal relationship with my bed, my vibrator and my vodka.. thats all you need isnt it? hehe

Typical Crew night stop, Damn I miss the good old days :}

[s artois]

I've been happily married for 4 years now but you know the old saying, what goes on tour stays on tour. Practically every trip I go on there's "fun" going on. As long as you accept this then yes you can have a normal relationship. At the end of the day it's just sex and when you're on a 9 day trip to the Far East and everyone's drinking and having a good time it's easy to get caught up in the moment:hmm:

[homesick rae]

I met my wife on the training course for an airline. At one point we were both Pursers and handed the aircraft over to each other on occasion. Wouldn't see each other for a week or two.

I am still in the industry ( management) and my wife a housewife. I travel quite a lot with my position to various trade shows.

It is tough leaving the family behind and not quite as enjoyable as it used to be but the fact that my wife understands the industry makes it slightly easier on our relationship. Makes the coming home all that more precious!

Cheers

HR

[EzyChic]

I have a long term boyfriend and 2 kids. I fly short haul so am home most nights. It's hard work especially as he has to start work when I finish, but, it's what we both want. If you love your job enough and love your partner/family enough you'll find a balance.

Ezy

[Virginia]

I'd rather have my relationship and be happy as I don't even like the job that much and the depression from that does not exactly help my relationship!

As soon as I move in with my long term b/f I am quitting and getting a nice little office job :cool:

[Pandora's Box]

I met my husband in my previous airline...im CC and he's in the pointed end!!

At the mo, my husband fly's freight so he can go away for a week at a time. Although it can get lonely, i do enjoy our time apart and it definately keeps the spark alive and abscence certainly does make the heart grow fonder :) :p

Im still CC, But I now only work part time because when I was full time, I never saw my husband....so I knew that I had to go part for the sake of our marriage.

My husband starts with a new airline soon, flying long haul which i am dreding because he will be with cabin crew again. I know I can trust him 100%, but there will always be that niggling doubt in the back of my mind :sad: :(

[sign-it-to-your-room]

You can have a fab relationship but it all depends on the kind of person you are, like everything in life.

The majority of our pilots (long haul) are in loving, committed relationships and do nothing but talk about their wives on trips :zzz: .........

There are some naughty boys and girls, but they have repuatations and are seen as saddos := ...........

As for cabin crew and relationships? Well I'm happily married with two kids, but it is **** being away from home, but also fab:confused:

However I must point out that there are an extraordinary high number of old hosties, who live with their moms and have no kids........They also tend to be totally anal and rather horrible to work with! :ugh:

So if you find yourself pulling crew up on not wearing the correct lipstick, or something equally pathetic, then do yourself and everyone else a favour......................do as suggested several posts earlier and get a bottle of vodka, your bed and a vibrator and let the rest of us have some fun.

Now hows that for an answer in a nutshell eh?:O

[Pandora's Box]

LadyMatilda

Yes I do trust my husband....The niggling doubt comes from when he's on a trip with slappers like you, who obviously just throw themselves at married men cause they cant get a bloke of their own:E :E Have some dignity girl :mad:
When you get married, I really hope he sleeps around, see how you like it :)

[Virginia]

I have met many dashing pilots, a few have been married and still tried it on! But I would never lower myself to being a mistress, it would all end in tears anyway!

[Airbourne-Adamski]

If you married in one country lets say UK,
Then end up night stopping in another country, lets say Spain for example then, the marriage becomes void as your in a different country to the country you married in. :E

Im right are'nt I ;)
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Just kidding guys, Me happily married. :)

[sebby]

I think by the replies here prove that there is no such thing as a normal relationaship.... just give it a go for yourself, if its the right person it will work! :ok:

[Pilas]

Well I can only say that I'm not surprised at some of the comments on this tread.

I live in a good relationship were my other half is a pilot (short haul) and I'm a F/A (longhaul) for a different company.

There is things that make me belive that we have a strong relationship.
we keep in contact at least once every 24 hrs if I'm gone.

He comes home and tells me pretty much what goes on in the company... even if it is things that might upset me.

Once he came home and told me about this "person" from the cabin who was telling him about how she was doing this and this person in the company. Then asked if my other half didn't want to have some "fun" with her..! When he didn't want any of that because he is with someone. She said are you sure?
All the guys she knew in the company from scandinavia was screwing around..

This made me feel sick when he told me but it made me trust him even more.. If he can come home and tell me this then I know he will not hide anything from me.

There will always be women that will throw them selvs at other womens men. I think that what goes around comes around.

If you choose to be the other women then maby you always will because inside this business people talk.

There is a possibility that any relatinship can end even if the involved are not in the aviation business.

[sky chef 1923]

As straight male cabin crew I am in the minority,however airlines are no different to any other company in that your gonna get people that cheat and people that dont. I have been going out with my girlfriend (also crew) for nearly a year and its not easy,but if you trust each other 100% it can be done!
Good luck.
p.s you would be surprised what married pilots tell male crew like me what they have been up to down route,think they think its male bonding!!:ok:

[ak3141]

I've found that the females are the only ones that ever go on about how funny, lovely and nice the flight crew are and it's quite amusing hearing the female cabin crew say, 'You should definitely visit the flight deck because they're such nice guys and are so funny!'

As soon as another male enters the flight deck, there is generally silence and a lot of effort to start and maintain a conversation. This could be due to the amount of sausages in a confined space but you'll mostly hear something along the lines of, 'Gee, what I'd give to get into that flightie!'

Of course there are ones that are happy to strike up a conversation with anybody, which are generally far and few between. Then there are those mentioned above, the ones with stories that end with the same punchline, 'What happens on an overnight, stay on an overnight.'

You can't really blame these guys as they're stuck in a confined space with other males for hours on end and I certainly don't envy that aspect of their job. However, I'm sure there are still many that are happily married and faithful to their loved ones.

[The Moo]

I've been flying 13yrs and have lost count of the of the amount of flight/cabin crew who by day go on about how much they love there boyfriends/girlfriends/wife. Then by night with a few drinks inside them they end up playing hide the sausage with another crew member.
It happens a hell of a lot. I would say that I see it happen once a month.
I've also known married crew with kids who are gay on nightstops.

[flybywire]

can crew have a "normal" relationship?

yes.

[sign-it-to-your-room]

Ha Ha The Moo, (2 posts up)
I reckon that we work for the same airline!:oh:

[Threethirteen]

Does this not go on in other professions?
If not, where did the phrase "Doctors and Nurses" come from?

Any relationship is going to involve hard work at times, unless you both happen to be retired and living in the wilderness............. But where's the fun in that?

[weeflygirl]

Hi guys I'm not crew yet.

But in my present company all the stuff you are saying goes on we go away on conferences etc alot and there is a what goes on tour stays on tour attitude.

However I am married 4 years and I have never even been tempted... I think the people that do are very weak individuals.

If your single then go have a great time if your married you commited to 1 person stick with that 1 person.

I plan on going to UAE without my hubby for 6 months I certainly wont be doing anything dodgy in that time.

A vibrator is a better idea.

[HostieHoney]

I was cabin crew for 2 and a half years, during which time I was single (and had the misfortune to date a few pilots and learn the hard way) and then also involved in a committed relationship.

There are opportunities for men to cheat wherever they work or socialise. And there are men who will take advantage of those opportunities and men who won't. I guess for those men who work in the airline industry it just means that the average rate of opportunities is significantly higher.

From my personal experience, when I was in a relationship I found long trips hard-especially over the weekend. Not because I was tempted, but because my boyfriend saw this as an opportunity to go out and stay out partying coz he knew I wouldn't be at home to tell him off. (Though he was young, so maybe that was more a reflection of his maturity :rolleyes: )
When I switched to rosters that involved virtually no overnights his routine went back to normal.

Secondly, there are pilots out there who are the "girl in every port" types. And everyone knows this and if not - they soon find out. The other types of pilots are the happily married ones who immediately show you a picture of their kids as soon as you meet them. Unfotunately these are the only two types that I ever met! Never came across those nice, well adjusted, socially adaptable, looking-for-a-relationship-not-just-a-fling type pf pilots. Though I am sure they exist....even if it is an aviation museum somewhere under a display case........;)

[Sky_hi!]

Join a budget domestic airline with no overnights/trips away. You'll always be back home the same day!

[CEJM]

Aircrew can have a normal relationship!

I have been in a relationship for the last 5 years. Making things worse in my relationship is that the lady i love lives in a different country than myself. Due to this we only see eachother twice a month. However i take her with me on trips whenever i can. (long haul F/O)

As mentioned before there are some slappers that throw themselves at every man they meet. But do you really want to play 'hide the sausage' when you know the other person has played this game with nearly everybody else in the company? No thank you!

Fortunately most of the people i work with are not slappers (male/female) and the people who are slappers are well known in the company. On most trips everybody wants to have a good time and a laugh.

HostieHoney,

I have to disagree with you. There are nice, well adjusted, socially adaptable, looking-for-a-relationship-not-just-a-fling type of pilots around!!

However it can be difficult to chat up a woman when on a trip. As most pilots are tarred with the same brush you very quickly get the 'You are just looking for a s**g' treatment. :{ (fortunately i don't have to deal with this anymore)

[UP and Down Operator]

CEJM, you could not be more right. I am one of those "well adjusted, socially adaptable, looking-for-a-relationship-not-just-a-fling type of pilots around" - or so I think that I am :bored:

But with the label that are put on almost all flightdeck members I don't even bother trying to find anyone inside the industry. Just not worth the bother.

But yes, I do know quit a lot of people within the aviation industry that are having healthy relationships without cheating....... and then there are of course also all the rest. But thats the same on every working site with mixed sexes and loose bodyfluids dripping around :hmm:

[Sylphie]

Call me old fashioned but I think if you're with the right person, who respects you and supports your career choice then having a 'normal' relationship won't be such a hard task. :ok:

[Samya]

What do we mean by normal relationship, anyways? If anyone can give a textbook definition of it PM me please, or better yet share it with all of us. :)

Kisses,

Samya

[CEJM]

Up and Down Operator,

I know exactly how you feel. However due to our schedules and times away from home it can be equally difficult to meet somebody nice outside the industry. :\

Being from the continent doesn't really help in my company. Most of my fellow countrymen earn themselves a 'good' reputation within the company. :ugh: So apart from battling the 'being flightdeck' curse i also needed to battle the 'foreigner' curse. :{

But hey, as they say. What goes around comes around. And some of my fellow countrymen have found this out already. :ok: Personally i prefer to go home after a trip and being met by the woman that i love, instead of doing my best to get a s**g on every trip.

[vodkaholic]

sloooow, i am myself being a bit slow here. but what is TC??

[Raybans]

mmmm I've had alot of room swapping aswell.... lol:ok:

[vodkaholic]

Ahh ok thanks for clearing that up!!