Very interesting post finncapt.
I would think the best outcome for both Finland and Sweden would be not to join NATO as this will wreck their relationship with Russia. But to in effect stay neutral and work with both sides. They did this so well in the cold war and faced down the mighty USSR. One would think in this modern age that reaching an understanding with modern Russia would be far easier.
I am really not a fan of NATO and its member states often pointless wars.