Why not give the tower a ring and talk about it?
With such an attitude as that (allegedly) displayed by the FISO in question on the R/T, I'd expect that only to lead to more verbal abuse from him. Since my main concern would then no longer be the safe conduct of the flight my reaction would be very different than while airborne and it would only escalate matters. Much better to go through official channels and then let them sort it out without emotional involvement (well, except for the FISO in question, but his emotional issues are and should remain his only
).