snoopy' let me on behalf of most of us in here apologize for any comments that may have offended you or yr family,am sure it's not the the sole intention to do so.
I think you will find that most pilots are genuinely shocked to hear of such events especially when it involves other inocent people & only wish to find out what happened even in the early stages to perhaps learn from the sad event.
As long as mankind has the desire to slip our earthly bounds he will forever be challenged & we all stand humble at a brothers passing.
We wish you yr family nothing but peace.
Wmk2