I would have to google-translate but, yes, if you can find somebody "agreeable" they will let you fill up, you pay them (cost plus), and they book the fuel to one of the club planes...
It's clearly one of those scenarios where speaking the local language works wonders.
Edit: I now recognise the author, Philipp Tieman. On the flyer forum he wrote that all my hassles in Italy were a load of "hogwash". I then asked him whether he happens to speak Italian. He never replied
Italy is OK if you can contact the airport beforehand and ask the right questions.