I would like to think I'm not flying with anyone who could react in such a way
Agreed, hence the
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As for having to stoop low, come the moment there is only chief on the FD. My point is that for both to work in harmony, there has to be a little "adjustment". Based on the description given of the FO in question, doing it bluntly may be the best way forward. If that offends, then by all means let him have his say - but the thread starter has (at least) one ring more than the other guy and it's there for a reason.