I am very lucky with Mr. ATS being in charge of everything i.e. he pays all the bills, the massive every 2 weeks food shopping and so on. I tried to convince him to let me contribute but no luck (which made me feel a bit "useless" shall i say). He always says "I earn enough so don't you worry about expenses, what you earn is
yours and do whatever you want with the money
you earn" He even suggested i stop working as we don't need me to work; i passed
What i am trying to say is that i am so lucky to have a man who worships the ground i'm walking on; and he's looking after me and sees that i am happy. And no, it's not about the money, it's how he treats me (and nice treatment sometimes involves money too). Call me old fashioned (ok, i am old fashioned) but isn't it true now a days that "the man looks after the woman as best he can?".
The missus in cause seems to believe that too. I agree that giving a tenner to beggers is too much, as is paying for her friends drinks and meals. I would suggest to sit her down and have a chat about the above issues. Don't use the "i ALWAYS pay for everything" line or "YOU always spend money on useless things" as it'll probably cause an argument. Just simply say to her that you struggle with the payments at times and ask her why does she feel she has to pay for "friends" meals or buy them presents?
As for these so called "friends" well i don't believe they are real friends if they keep letting her to take care of the bills; my friends go bananas if i even suggest to take care of the bill and if i do pay that time, they will pay next time. Simple as, common sense and nothing else.
Rgds,
ATS
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